Time is the one thing we all take for granted in one way or another. This week as my only child completed 3rd grade and brought home several certificates, trophies, a medal for Student of the Year and a straight A report card, I was overwhelmed with excitement, gratefulness and joy. He didn’t know it, but I also had tears – happy tears – just pondering the goodness of God and thankful for His continuous blessings in our lives. I’ve officially been a single mom for the last 4 years and each year that my son and I get through, I look back in retrospect as I marvel at all the ways God has been by our side every step of the way. That’s a story in and of itself, but my point today is “time”.
For the last 4 years, two things have been my sole focus and driving motivation – God and my son. I vowed 1) in spite of all the terrible things I had been through that I would never stop serving God and 2) that I would raise my son the best way I possibly could and teach him to serve God also. He’s 9 years old now, intelligent, funny, extremely active, and has a strong sense of sarcasm that mirrors my own! I don’t miss our mother-son time for anything or anyone. We have our daily routines which include eating dinner together (usually at his Ninja Turtle table and chair set lol), watching one of his favorite shows, and a bed time story / devotions (usually 3 times a week).
Then we have our mother/son Saturdays once a month – shopping, a movie, going out to eat, or simply running errands and spending his allowance on something fun like the arcade, skating, or laser tag. But outside of all that, it’s the brief random moments that I love the most. Those times when he says things like “mom, you’re the best”, or in his prayer, he prays for my strength to take care of him, or when he gives me a hug for no reason and says ‘I love you mom’; even those sporadic days when he thinks about his father and says ‘mom, as long as you’re here I’ll be ok’ (tear). Oh, and lets not forget the times of confession – when right before bed he wants to confess something he did wrong that day lol.“Time” – the one thing that once its gone you never get back. I could go into a whole speech about parents needing to spend more time with their kids, but I understand we all have different situations, schedules and circumstances. So since this blog is about me sharing with you what God is teaching me through His Word, I’ll make it simple and just encourage all parents to simply learn to not only spend time with your kids but to enjoy and savor it in the process. Unless there is some medical condition or legal restriction that prevents you from doing so, God has commanded those of us who are parents to do just that – parent our kids!
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
I’ve never known any type of training that didn’t require time, effort, energy, focus, patience, and sometimes even sacrifice. I’m nowhere near the perfect parent, in fact, I stay in the Word daily so I can have my ‘train the trainer’ sessions to help me develop into the mother God has called me to be. This ‘timing’ thing hit me hard, because the first 5 years of my son’s life I had little to no time for him. I woke him up, bathed him, got him dressed, sent him to daycare, picked him up, fed him, bathed him and put him to bed…..rinse and repeat.
No relationship, no communication, no time. I was busy with work, school, church, my business, life, etc., with little time to really be a parent. And when my marriage came to an end, I realized just how little time I had given to the things that were supposed to be most important in my life.
From then on, I decided to shift my priorities and with God’s continuous strength and guidance, I am learning to give both God and my son the proper time that I should. You’re probably saying to yourself, “its easier said than done”. I used to say the same thing – for years on end! It wasn’t until after so much time had passed and been wasted that I finally listened to His Word:
“So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Yes it’s easier said than done, but that doesn’t change the fact that once you actually do it (listen and obey His Word) His blessings will follow! Just try it – start putting God first by spending more time with Him – NOT “doing” more things for Him, but by reading His Word and allowing Him to speak to you daily. In fact I’ll go as far as daring you to do it on a consistent basis! I dare you to switch your priorities and start giving God more time in your life – then watch Him start to do more in your life in the process.
I spend more time in God’s Word and through His Word he teaches me daily to be and do the things He’s called me to do, including being a parent. My life is not easy and its not smooth sailing by any definition, but because I know (according to the verse above) that life is going to be a daily challenge anyway, I choose to live each day by clinging to God. I know for sure I couldn’t handle it any better on my own!
Time. Society teaches that we only have one life to live and that we should spend it by doing what we want, when we want. The Word teaches that apart from Christ we can’t even begin to enjoy life to the fullest. Of course we “modern” Christians want to have a little of both ways of thinking. I’m just now learning at 35 years old that God’s way is the only way! The funny thing is, when we seek Him first, He starts to change our way of thinking, so that the things we want to do, start lining up with what He wants for us anyway.
Time with God = Time Never Wasted!
Time with God = Changing your Life!
Time with God = Blessings – Guaranteed!
….According to the Mirror of His Word!